I confess – the last two weeks have been a bit of a whirl-wind!
Just two weeks ago I walked out of my previous role with my head held high .. and have pretty much / kinda / most of the time not responded to the suggestions floating around that I have been “let go” and the implications that begins to breed.
I reiterate .. I walked .. with my head held high .. because I have boundaries that I am prepared to stick by. I walked because I hold myself to a higher standard .. I walked because I am done with men dictating my life and in doing so minimising my contribution, negating my work, and treating me like a glorified Admin Assistant. D … O … N … E …!
I would rather be broke and sleep at night …… would rather be in control of my own destiny … “I am woman hear me roar!” LOL
So explain this one to me????
What the actual?
I mean really?
“Tumble out of bed and stumble to the kitchen
Pour myself a cup of ambition .
Yawning and stretching and trying to come to life!”DOLLY PARTON
Did the Trash Fairies have a party at mine last night and I didn’t get an invite?
Man .. was I pissed off!!
But I have been working with a coach recently that suggested that when we find ourselves getting ticked off at something it’s actually a manifestation in our lives of something bigger that’s going on. The “getting” to the ticked off a point is just you getting to the point where you notice something you are allowing in your life needs to be addressed.
Instead of going with my first reaction … dragging the 20-year-old from his be and chewing him out for not doing the dishes before bed last night (Newsflash this was before 7 am so I would NOT have been popular) I decided to sit with this issue for a while and see what the lesson was for me …..
And it didn’t take too long …
I mean the kettle wasn’t even boiled ….
And it struck me …..
I hate being surrounded by crap! I hate it when my life gets messy and I don’t take responsibility for clearing it up. I hate that in avoiding the mess, it grows bigger, and I continue to procrastinate in dealing with it until the whole thing falls down like a disaster around my ears.
HATE IT – DONE WITH IT – I SEE YOU AND I DON’T WANT TO DO THIS ANYMORE!!
But it’s true! The whole situation with my last (two maybe three employed by someone else jobs) could have been avoided if I had been more clear on my boundaries right from the very start instead of doing the “I am woman, like me, I can be accomodating, let me be diminished, let me be your doormat” schtick!
But let me make this VERY CLEAR .. because I was wrong not to do that does not mean that they were right in how they treated me .. no, nope, not at all!
At no point whatsoever should any employer suggest that they should come before my kids .. just not happening dude! NEVER!!!
But I own my part in it all fully! Lesson recognised and hopefully lesson learned.
So now its time to deal with all the crap!
So here is what I did first ……… I dealt with the crap in front of me!
Now – I know what you are thinking .. I am just letting my son off the hook by doing this. Nope! He and I will definitely have words as soon as he surfaces. It was NOT OK not to do his fair share of the chores last night .. I cooked, he should have cleared up!
But I could not sit down to work with that all staring me in the face .. so I dealt with the crap (and honestly it took about 7 minutes in total)
Isn’t it funny how things that can get us so exercised can take so little time to sort out? I have a feeling that today is going to be full of lessons as I unpick this further!
So this weekend is going to spent focusing on a short deadline that I have for my new business, then dealing head-on with the other crappy situations in my life. Crap needs to get sorted, crap needs to get done, crap needs to be addressed and put behind me so that I can move forward at the speed and the productivity that I need in order to hit my goals … and show all those naysayers that they were talking out of their elbows!
I can almost guarantee this – that none of this will be as scary, expensive, stressful or time-consuming as I have built it all up in my head to be!
I guess that is what they mean when they talk about “kitchen sink wisdom” – eh?